The Struggles of Self-Care in Mental Health

By: Suzanne Feinstein, PhD

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Self-care – a term that has become both a buzzword and a lifeline. In our fast-paced lives, we often find ourselves juggling responsibilities, deadlines, and the needs of others. Amidst this chaos, we inadvertently push our own well-being to the back burner. But what happens when self-care becomes a struggle? When the very act meant to nourish us feels like an insurmountable task?

The Importance of Self-Care

Self-care is more than just bubble baths and scented candles. It’s a commitment to ourselves – a promise to factor our health, well-being, and happiness into the equation of our lives. When we prioritize self-care, we reap numerous benefits:

  1. Improved Mental Health: Quality self-care is intrinsically linked to mental well-being. It enhances self-esteem, self-worth, and optimism. When we care for ourselves, we create a positive outlook on life and reduce anxiety and depression levels.
  2. Energy Recharge: Think of self-care as fueling our four sources of energy: nutrition, sleep, physical activity, and mindset. These pillars sustain us, reinvigorate our mind, body, and soul. Just like a well-maintained vehicle, we need to know how to nourish ourselves with the right foods, manage behaviors, practice self-compassion, move our bodies, and prioritize rest.

Let’s delve deeper into the struggles of self-care and mental health by exploring real-life examples:

The Overworked Professional

Meet Amy, a dedicated project manager. She juggles multiple deadlines, attends back-to-back meetings, and ensures her team stays on track. Amy’s calendar is color-coded with work commitments, but there’s no room for self-care. She skips meals, sacrifices sleep, and neglects her emotional well-being. The result? Burnout. Amy’s mental health deteriorates, affecting her productivity and relationships. Despite knowing the importance of self-care, she struggles to break free from the cycle.

The Anxious Student

Jason, a college student, battles anxiety. His mind races with worries about exams, social interactions, and the future. He’s aware that meditation or a walk in the park could ease his anxiety, but he can’t bring himself to do it. The pressure to perform well overshadows self-care. Jason’s mental health suffers, and panic attacks become frequent. He feels trapped—anxious about both academic success and his own well-being.

The Caregiver

Emily is a devoted caregiver to her aging parents. She cooks, cleans, manages medications, and accompanies them to doctor’s appointments. Emily’s days blur into one continuous act of selflessness. She rarely takes breaks, believing that her parents’ needs come first. But exhaustion creeps in. Emily’s mental health waivers as she grapples with guilt—guilt for wanting time for herself. She wonders if self-care is selfish when her loved ones depend on her.

The Social Media Dilemma

Alex spends hours scrolling through social media. The glossy images of others’ lives evoke envy and self-doubt. Alex knows that stepping away from the screen and practicing mindfulness would help. Yet, the struggle persists. The fear of missing out (FOMO) keeps Alex glued to the virtual world. The mental toll accumulates—the constant comparison, the need for validation, and the erosion of self-esteem.

The Stigma Surrounding Mental Health

Rachel battles depression. She’s aware that seeking therapy or talking to a friend could alleviate her pain. But stigma looms large. Rachel fears judgment, labels, and misconceptions. She hesitates to reach out, believing that self-care means hiding her struggles. The internal battle intensifies the desire for healing versus societal expectations.

Overcoming the Struggle: Practical Steps

Micro Self-Care: Amy can start with small acts—a 10-minute break, a cup of herbal tea, or a deep breath. These micro self-care moments accumulate, replenishing her energy.

Mindful Studying: Jason can integrate self-care into his study routine. A short walk, progressive muscle relaxation, or journaling can ease anxiety. It’s not an indulgence; it’s an investment in his mental health.

Respite for Caregivers: Emily needs respite care. She can seek support from family, friends, or professional caregivers. Self-care isn’t selfish; it ensures she can continue caring for her parents effectively.

Digital Detox: Alex can set boundaries with social media. Unplug, engage in hobbies, and connect with real-life experiences. The mental clutter will dissipate.

Normalize Seeking Help: Rachel can challenge the stigma. Seeking therapy or confiding in a trusted person isn’t weakness—it’s strength. Self-care includes seeking professional support.


Remember, self-care isn’t a luxury; it’s a lifeline. These examples remind us that we’re all navigating the same struggle. Let’s extend compassion—to ourselves and others—as we tread this path toward better mental health.

Advanced Behavioral Health, LLP helps people improve their overall quality of life by incorporating self-care practices.

Call 646-345-3010 or email Dr. Suzanne Feinstein at for a free 15 minute consultation to see if you qualify for treatment.

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